People always say that absence makes the heart grow fonder and for some reason all these country songs and TV shows make returning to a past love look glamorous. What these songs and shows don't tell you is all of the truth. Herodotus once said, "One cannot step twice into the same river for the water in which you first stepped has flown on." How true. However, when it comes to relationships, this isn't totally accurate.
At first, returning to a past love is exciting and adventurous. It's like picking up a favorite toy from childhood that you left behind. It's such a good idea...in the beginning. After playing with the toy for a while though, you find yourself stuck (for lack of a better word). Stuck in a place with the same toy, but with a different you. What many don't realize is how quickly time changes us. It could be a few weeks or a few months (6 months to be exact), but we change. And when it comes to relationships, it's even harder.
You realize that the same problems you used to have may be gone, but there are new ones. There are harder, more difficult ones. And because you both have changed, you handle the problems differently than you would have the first time around. And if you are anything like me, you may feel depressed for you have made the same mistake twice. But this is not true.
This is not a step taken backwards. This is not another mistake in a string of bad ones. This is merely another lesson learned in a path to the amazing life you have ahead of you. A life that you deserve more than anything. A life of happiness. A happiness that redefines what happiness means. This is realizing that being miserable has no place in love. And if you are miserable in your situation, there is hope for something better.
Maybe occasionally someone gets lucky and finds a lost love just to realize that's all they were ever missing. But 9 times out of 10, we are reminded of the reason the relationship ended in the first place.
The point I am making? Being afraid of change is for babies. And frankly, I've been a baby for a while. But at some point, something weird happens and we become adults. We grow up and realize that change is the ONLY constant in this world. Change is something to embrace, while we let go of everything else holding us back. Shed a tear or two for the love that was lost, and then move on and be not afraid!
"Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me..."-Psalms 23:4
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